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Psychological vampires: myth or reality?2008-11-07 16:53
From time to time each of us feels broken to pieces after a talk with this or that person. Professional psychologists suppose it to be a result of vampirism - the really existing phenomenon. Sergey Klyuchnikov, psychologist, shared some information concerning it, in his interview to «Pravda.ru».gt-en-newsitem-inside
- How can I figure out a vampire?
- As a rule, such a person is fussy, insincere, tries to use other people to solve his/her problems. The situation around him usually gets tense and may lead to conflict.
The sense of discomfort and exhaustion comes only after communication. Vampires often disguise themselves, they sound benevolent and flatter. The interlocutor cannot guess why does he/she feels so bad after their talk.
- Does a vampire «suck energy» conscientiously?
- Not always. When we talk to a person whose intellectual level is much higher than ours, who knows much more than we do, you may like or lump this, we show some vampiric tendencies. The same can be said about children and parents.
Usually it occurs in early age, but sometimes even grown-up «kids» demand more and more attention. It's a bad symptom.
Conscientious vampirism also occurs. Such a person believes that everyone owes him/her, acts in this way and becomes a troublemaker. These people are on our hands, they impose their company and their problems on us. To get rid of them can be really difficult.
- How to avoid aggression at the side of a vampire? How can I defend myself?
- The best advice is to avoid such situations, to stay psychologically independent.
Building a psychological defense can also be effective. Imagine yourself in a ray of light that makes you invulnerable. You may «build» a shield - to surround yourself mentally with a glass spacesuit, cylinder or cocoon, about 20 inch thick.
But if you do it too often, you may turn in Chekhov's "man in a case". Your «shield» must be transparent and let you live, act, feel, sympathize... But being weak, being a combat dummy for somebody is inadmissible. You must learn to build relationships with this world around us. Interview by: Irina Shlionskaya